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Writing Love Letters

The Easy & Effective Way

Writing love letters is a romantic expression of your feelings. Thinking you have to write like Shakespeare puts unnecessary pressure on most men and they quit before ever trying to write a love letter. I'm telling you to forget about all that Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, "how do I love thee" type of romance. Forget it. This isn't about that. Who talks like that anyway?!

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Writing love letters is about telling her how you feel using the same words that you use every day. She will understand that coming from you. It will be natural. She will feel it. That is what this is about, letting her feel it from you. Here's what has worked for me many times in the past, and I'm sure it will work for you too!

For Her Eyes Only!

This is a lot easier than you think...

First, writing love letters is simply about telling her two things:

1) how you feel

2) why you feel that way

It really is as simple as that. What you feel. Why you feel it.

Side note: telling her why you feel what you feel is like the difference between seeing a fast car in a parking lot or seeing a fast car blazing down a drag strip. Big difference. One you have to trust that it's true, and the other leaves no doubt about it. Don't give her any doubts. Tell her why.

Writing love letters doesn't have mean pages and pages. As long as it's honest and its your own words she will feel it. Even a paragraph or two will be just fine. If you're not used to expressing what you feel it may take some focus and thought to put this together but she's worth it, isn't she?! Of course she is! I'm talking about you taking maybe 30 minutes out of your life to turn off the TV and radio, shut out all distractions, and give some focused thought into this. There is no way to measure the rewards for such a small investment of your time and thought. Priceless comes to mind.

Start at the beginning with your opening: Try "Dear Sweetheart" or whatever endearing name or nickname you have for her. Remember what you used to call her when you first met? I called my wife my raison d'être, even before we were married. It's French for Reason for Being. I have no idea where I found it but I knew as soon as I did it described how I felt about her. Writing love letters to my wife always include this. If you have a nickname like this and if the meaning isn't long gone, use it.

Next, give a brief description of what you are about to do. For example, "I'm writing this letter, long overdue, to tell you what this past year of marriage has meant to me." Nothing fancy. Just a sentence or two about what you are about to share.

Then you tell her what you feel, for example, "Being married to you has given my life new meaning." and then tell her why, "Before we met I was a couch potato with no goals and now I have a job and a life and a beautiful wife". Nice.

Tell her something else you feel, "I love your hugs" and tell her why you feel that way "because they are warm and make me feel loved". Very nice, and very likely to get you more hugs.

Tell her even more of what you feel, "I love you with all my heart" and tell her why you feel it, "because I cannot imagine life without you and I want to always be beside you".

If you need ideas...

Think about your answers to these questions:

What do you like most about her? How does that make you feel?
What makes her fun? How does that make you feel?
What makes her sexy? How does that make you feel?
What do you love about her? How does that make you feel?

More things to think about: fun, sexy, funny, strong, smart, beautiful, creative, thoughtful, happy...

You get the idea? What do you like (I love your hugs) how does that make you feel (they make me feel loved).

When you've written a few or a bunch of "what you feel for her" and "why you feel that way for her" you then need to...

Close your letter. Perhaps something like, "I know I don't say it often enough, but I love being your partner in this thing called life. I can't imagine living life any other way" Then of course you need to sign it. I also like to date it because she will most likely keep it forever. I mean it. I always sign with my first name and put a tiny little heart above it. It has been in my signature in letters to my wife since before she was my wife.

I hope you're thinking "I can do that." because writing love letters isn't very complicated and knowing you took the time to even attempt it is what will really touch her heart. The effort to attempt it means you were being thoughtful, and that means romantic.

Remember...

You really don't have to write a novel. Keep it honest. Use your own words. You can't go wrong. By the way, if you give her a love letter and her first reaction is "what's wrong?" or "what did you do?" that should be a signal to you that this is long overdue. This is supposed to bring joy to her heart, not suspicion or doubt.

Also - write it all out and check your spelling. When you are sure you have it right, write it over by hand on a decent piece of paper. Go for something special, not just something you tore out of a notebook. Don't use a computer for the final letter you give her. You can draft it on the computer, but a hand written letter is far better, even if your handwriting is like "chicken scratch" as my mother calls it. Mine is lousy but I wouldn't dream of doing this any other way. Focus, take your time, and write it by hand.

Writing love letters is not recommended for someone you are just getting to know or casually dating. Save writing love letters for the one you love, who loves you. Unless you are both telling each other "I love you" on a regular basis this may be too much too soon.

If you think writing a love letter is too much for you, take a look at my Love Notes page for ideas that are no more than a few sentences and a little as just a few words.

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