Second Date IdeasHow To "Keep It Real" and Be True To YouSecond date ideas might hold even more significance to you than the first date. You've already gotten together on a first date and it went well enough to want to see each other again. The fact that you like each other means there now really is something on the line, your feelings. Now more than ever you want to make sure you keep it real, allow your true self to shine, and don't fall for the wrong one. There is nothing worse than opening your eyes weeks, months, or even years down the road and realizing you don't know this person sitting across from you - or worse, laying next to you in bed. What happened to that fun guy you met on your first date? Where is that considerate man who opened my doors and paid attention to me? Been there?  Think of it like this... as a child most of us have built houses out of blocks. If you don't build your block house right from the start, the first blocks as true and steady as the last blocks, the house will crumble. The same is true for relationships. Everything builds on what came before, and if you start based on lies or behavior that you won't or can't maintain the relationship will suffer. There is no way around it. If you don't begin based on your true self, keeping it real, it's fake and likely to fail. Use these second date ideas to have fun and keep it real. Don't Make This Terrible Dating Mistake Most people will give you dating advice that says to "be on your best behavior" and basically act in ways that you don't act day in and day out. Big mistake! I don't agree with this advice, not even a little. Don't get caught in the trap of trying to impress each other, acting in ways you don't normally act. If you can't maintain that behavior, if it isn't the real you, sooner or later the real you will come out and then they will realize they don't know the real you, or worse, they don't even like the real you. Keeping it real with these second date ideas means you let the real you shine through. How do you do that? Don't pretend to be something you are not. I am not suggesting you forget common sense or manners or behavior relevant to where you are - that stuff should be a given to any social situation. I am suggesting you take the risk of allowing your true self to be seen. Wouldn't you rather be loved for who you really are and not for the fake you pretended to be to impress someone? I would. What if they don't like the real you? So?! Show me one person who hasn't had their heart broken once or twice or a million times. A broken heart means you are willing to risk hurt to find love. There are billions of people on this earth and you have to be willing to walk away from the wrong ones who don't like you for who you are if you expect to find the right one. What I would do is make sure the second date ideas you use allow connections to be created based on the real you. You won't have to fix it later if you do it right from the start. Everything Changes Without exception, everything on this earth changes. Everything. People change and relationships change too. How many times have you heard "I want things to be the way they used to be" in an argument? Have you said this before? I've heard it before and guess what folks, the old me is gone. Long gone! Not only does everything change, everything is either moving forward or moving backward. Nothing stands still, not even a rock. People who sustain lifelong relationships are those who understand that people change and they are committed to change and grow together. You might not be able to get that initial fire back, but that doesn't mean you can't create a new spark just a strong and exciting and intoxicating as when you first met. You can if you decide that's what you will do. It doesn't just happen. You have to decide. Second Date Ideas  Ok, so the first date went well and you like each other at least enough to get together again. I'm fairly certain if you want to go out again it has something to do with how you feel about you when you are with this person. Yes?You feel elated, excited, happy, giddy, or maybe even almost afraid of what you feel. You know you like him, you know he likes you... it's time to have some fun! Even if you did it on your first date, and I hope you did, your second date ideas are the perfect time to have fun. Laugh a lot. Get the adrenaline pumping. Touch each other. Smile. Share the electric spark of getting to know someone. Have fun! Why is it important to make it a fun, exciting date now? Think of it like the glue that holds two piece of paper together. No glue and they don't stick. Sharing the adrenaline rushing, blood pumping fun and excitement forms bonds between people that dinner and a movie don't create. Think of the most fun and exciting date you ever had and I bet you can remember almost every detail about who you were with, what you did, maybe even what you were wearing and music you heard. You might even be able to get that exciting feeling back just by thinking about it. Now think of a time you went on a dinner date... can you recall what you ate, who it was with, or what you talked about? Fun and Exciting Dates Build Good Memories Here is my short list of adrenaline pumping, blood rushing, sharing laughs, touching, smiling, and having a good time second date ideas... Go sky diving - you can do a tandem jump strapped to an instructor after some short instructions. Once you hit the ground you and your date can share you experiences and the views and the rush and... you get the idea. Second date ideas like this come with built in conversations and long lasting memories.  Surfing / Skimboarding / Bodyboarding - I'm the bodyboard type, less chance to break my neck, but it's all fun and exciting and laughter and it doesn't have to be too serious. I may not be too good at it but I love the way you touch me when you're trying to show me how it's done.  Ski / Snowboard / Sledding - I'm not big on winter sports (I like heat) but I do enjoy sitting by a fire, warming up, sipping hot chocolate. Oh, and laughing about how bad of a skier I am. Laughing together and teasing each other actually builds attraction. Make your second date ideas the kind that put a smile on your face and laughter in your heart.  Go to an amusement park - I haven't been on a roller coaster in years but there are some really exciting rides in Vegas that are on my list. Work out / Exercise together - jogging, biking, or pumping iron, if you're the athletic type and can keep up with each other you can have some fun with this. I've read that people who work out with a partner achieve better results, so if keeping fit is part of your lifestyle this is something you might want to explore.  Roller skating / Ice skating - I did this a few months ago after not having been on skates for over 20 years. I was terrified but had fun, and true to my words I can remember everyone there and what we talked about! It's best if at least one of you is a good skater and can be support for the other. I like second date ideas that almost force you to touch. Bungee jumping - something else I've never done but I've seen some pretty wicked jumps off of bridges over water that look very exciting.  Running of the bulls - If you have the nerve (200 to 300 people get hurt doing this each year) and if you are in Spain or one of the other countries where this is occurs, and if you are not opposed to the practice, and if you survive it, this will get your blood pumping big time. Your best second date idea is going to be something fun and exciting that builds on that good first date you had. All of these ideas focus on the fun part but allow plenty of room to follow it up with a meal or drinks together the same day/night. You'll have plenty to talk about as you share a meal or drinks and reminisce about all the fun you had. This would be a good time, based on your comfort level, to start asking and sharing some of the good dating conversation topics that help keep your date positive and upbeat. Did you find this information useful? Contact me with your questions, comments, and suggestions! Home < Romantic Ideas < Second Date Ideas < You Are Here  |
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February 14, 2012
