DatingThe Old Fashioned WayDating, the old fashioned way, still means getting out there and taking a chance on love. Love is what happens when you stick with someone you find a close connection to and you allow the feeling to grow and guide you. It does not always have to lead to love, but back in the day that is what it was all about. Courting. Getting to know you. Showing your intentions and your potential to her/him and her/his parents. Falling in love. Engagement. Marriage. Family. Forever. Are you scared now?!  The old fashioned way means you find connection where you can find them... through friends, relatives, coworkers, classmates, church, activities, the person behind the counter at the fast food place... if you're the type to just get out there and do it you will never be at a loss for where to find a date. Nothing happens until something happens, so you have to get out there and make it happen. If you are not the type to just get out and ask, ask, ask, then perhaps a more passive offline service or online website might be a better idea for you.A Different World...These days dating seems to have taken on a whole new meaning. People aren't looking strictly as a means to find a life partner, and for sure men seem to look at it more casually than women. He might be looking for someone to "hook up" with and she might be looking for something more substantial. That is why it is important to always be absolutely clear and up front about your intentions and expectations. You don't want to wake up one day next to someone you don't really know and can't see yourself with for the rest of your life. It happens. Very often you find a connection to someone when you aren't even looking for it. I wasn't looking for love when I started talking to a coworker. We talked and became friends. A couple years later we found ourselves still talking and growing closer together. One day, very unexpected, as I was making plans to move to another state I figured out that I couldn't leave if there was a chance to be with her. Five years later we were married. I wasn't looking for it but I knew it was out there for me. She was out there for me. The right place at the right time... I have a single male friend who doesn't do the online thing. My advice to him and anyone seeking a date is to get out of the house and get involved in things where the type of people you want to meet are also involved. Join a team or group or organization. Take a class. Go back to school. Volunteer. If you get involved in things where the type of people you want to meet are involved you are half way there. It won't happen if you don't allow it, so make it possible by getting out and getting involved. Did you find this information useful? Contact me with your questions, comments, and suggestions! Bookmark, Print, or Share this page  Home < Find A Date << Dating, The Old Fashioned Way <<< You Are Here
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