Dating ConversationsWhat To Say and What To Share Continued...Dating conversations are like any other conversations. You can hear it in someone's voice when they talk about something they enjoy or like or love. Enthusiasm is infectious! If they feel it you will most likely feel it too. Even if they are talking about something you don't personally enjoy, bringing that positive energy out of them will have positive, lasting effects. Ever hear someone say "They bring out the best in me"? That's what this is all about, allowing that positive energy to flow from a dating conversation about something good. That sounds like a great date experience to me!  When it's your turn to talk...Be honest and have fun. Don't forget to smile, it actually makes your voice sound friendlier. Really. Also, try not to talk and talk and never give them a chance to say a word. Communication is a two way street, give and take. Share the conversation. When it's your turn to listen... Pay attention and don't interrupt. You might also ask questions about what they've shared with you to show you are paying attention and you are interested in what they have to say. As long as you stick with the truth you can't go wrong. Don't fake interest. Most people would rather be let down now than be lied to and have you lead them on. When you don't agree... What do you do or say when someone says something you don't like or agree with? First, you don't have to like or agree with everything they like. If you have to say something - and you really don't have to - but if you did you could say... "That's interesting" (not agreeing but not disagreeing) "I know someone who also likes that" (acknowledge you understand) "I like the way you described that" (change focus from what they said to how they said it) Or, as a last resort, "We'll have to agree to disagree on that" (acknowledge and move on) If they ask, "Don't you like that too?" and if you don't, just say what you do like as an answer. For example, I've had sushi and I would like to try it again. I ask my wife is she would like sushi. She answers, "I like my fish fried" - she tells me what she likes as an answer. Nothing negative about that approach. If they accuse you of "avoiding the question" just because you don't say directly what you don't like (I've been there) you can just tell them you focus on the positives, what you do like, and don't dwell on negatives. If they have a problem with that you might want to give a little more thought about how good of a match you are or aren't. Think about it. Return to Page 1 >> Dating ConversationDid you find this information useful? Contact me with your questions, comments, and suggestions!  << Bookmark, Print, or Share this pageHome < Dating Conversations << You Are Here
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